Young Adult Kids Moving Back Home? This Expert Has Good Advice
Former college dean and best-selling author offers free resources on navigating family relationship upheaval during Covid-19.
Julie Lythcott-Haims is a former Stanford University freshman dean, turned best-selling author. She writes mostly about parenting (or in her case, the perils over-parenting) young adults, and hosted a popular TedTalk on How to Raise Successful Kids Without Over Parenting.
Lythcott-Haims is a best-selling author and expert on parent/young adult children relationships.Kristina Vetter/Stanford Daily
Lythcott-Haims has recently found her skills put to the test during the coronavirus, not only because of the demand for her advice on what to do when your young adult kids suddenly move back home, but also because her daughter, a college freshman, and her son, also a young adult, are sheltering-in-place with her during the pandemic.
Lythcott-Haims with son Sawyer and daughter Avery.Julie Lythcott-Haims/Facebook
Lythcott-Haims has been doing a lot of media interviews lately, and for the past month, she's been writing a weekly newsletter on surviving the coronavirus -- not just physically, but mentally -- with timely titles like Ten Tips for Sheltering in Place Without Losing Your Mind and what to say If You Dare To Talk To Your 18-25 Year Old.
"I think a lot of folks are finding themselves struggling to navigate these relationships," Lythcott-Haims writes. "Frankly I think [the pandemic] could make or break this generation. They could wither if they're treated/behave like children while sheltering in place; they could bust out of here and thrive the likes of which we haven't seen if we treat them/and they behave like adults in this moment."
A few weeks ago Lycott-Haimes hosted a webinar titled 10 Tips for Parents on Sheltering in Place Without Losing Your Mind which you can watch in archive. She's co-hosting another free webinar Thursday 4/9 at 12PM PDT/3PM EST. Her co-host is parenting expert and educator Annmarie Chereso of BringIt! Home with a panel of young adults to discuss the COVID19 crisis, the stress that both young adults and parents are feeling during this time, and how we can all more effectively navigate the conversation and support one another. You can register for the webinar at the link here.
Lythcott-Haims (with her mom) is convinced that if we handle things right, our relationships with young adult children can come through the pandemic even stronger.Julie Lythcott-Haims/Facebook
As the mother of a just-turned-20-years-old college sophomore who has moved back in with us to study at home, I found Lythcott-Haims insights interesting and helpful. Kudos to experts like her for sharing their expertise during this stressful time, so our family relationships come through this pandemic unscathed, and maybe even better for the challenge.